Lesson 1 For a Better School Life
Understanding Your Behavior
Hello, first-year students. I’m your school counselor, Hannah Kim. How is your new ____ life?
You may have experienced a situation where things didn’t go as you ____ at school.
Have ____ ever wondered why this happens?
Let’s take a look at the ____ two cases.
The first case is about a student named Hajun.
On the first ____ of school, Hajun’s homeroom teacher introduced several school clubs.
At that time, Hajun didn’t have a ____ preference for any of them.
He thought that any indoor ____ would be okay since he was not an outdoor person.
Can you guess what happened on the day of ____?
He joined the soccer ____. What made him choose soccer?
Well, a few days before submitting his application, he ____ that the soccer club was so popular that half of his classmates were applying for it.
This made him ____ that the soccer club was something special.
With this in mind, he signed up for the soccer club ____ because others did so.
However, ____ he had joined the club, he realized that soccer was not for him.
In the end, he ____ his decision.
Why do you think this happened?
Psychologists say that people tend to engage in certain behaviors ____ because others are doing them.
____, people don’t want to be excluded from their peers.
These psychological factors cause people to follow the crowd, rather than ____ on their own.
This phenomenon is called the “____ effect.”
Following the crowd, of course, does not always lead to negative consequences, but it can lead to ____.
So, how can you make your own ____?
The first thing is to know ____ you really want.
Although it might be ____ from your friends’, don’t be afraid to make your own choice.
As long as you ____ the right choice for you, you will be happy about your decision.
Now, let’s look at another case, one about Yubin.
One day, Yubin told me ____ her first science quiz.
____ was the subject that she struggled with the most.
Since she wanted to ____ a good grade, she made a thorough study plan for herself.
Yet, every time she tried to concentrate on science, she found herself ____ other things instead.
For instance, she cleaned her desk or texted her ____.
These activities distracted her from studying, and in the end, she got a bad ____.
She was ____ that she continuously engaged in behaviors unhelpful for accomplishing her task.
When people do not have the confidence to perform tasks well, they are ____ to create obstacles to success.
This ____ of behavior is referred to as “self-handicapping.”
Self-handicapping enables people to ____ excuses for their poor performances.
These excuses prevent the poor result ____ lowering their self-esteem.
This might ____ in the short term.
However, be careful!
It could lead to repeated failures in certain tasks that you are not confident in ____.
If you are self-handicapping, it might be because you consider the ____ more important than the process.
Focusing ____ on the process than the outcome may ease the pressure to perform well.
Accordingly, you may ____ more encouraged to try to do the challenging tasks.
This ____ eventually stop your self-handicapping.
As first-year students in ____ school, you’ll sometimes face difficult moments.
It is not unusual because everyone goes through difficult ____.
Even ____ you feel disappointed with your choices or behaviors, don’t let yourself feel down.
The most important thing is figuring out your own way to ____ your negative feelings.
It will make your school ____ much more enjoyable. If you feel worried, remember that you are not alone.
You have friends, teachers, and me. Good luck in this ____ new chapter of your life.